Friday, March 9, 2018

An Apology, Explanation, and Re-Take: Christian Girl Feminism

A few months ago, I wrote this post. It sparked some controversy (even more than when I said I didn't like the Anne movies!), and it got a lot of support, but I must say something about it:
I don't like it.
I didn't like it when I wrote it, and I like it less now, since I've been thinking about it for five months.

So let me try again.

First, I need to apologize for the post in general. Specifics will be thrown in along the way, but I am sorry I wrote it in such a manner.
Also, I apologize for, as one commenter (commentator? Hm) put it, "Christianizing" my ideas. This was not an inaccurate accusation. It's true. I know I "Christianized" my post, and I don't like the way it turned out.

I wrote this post out of frustration with the way things are in the world, and I "Christianized" it because I wanted it to fit in with my blog audience, because feminism is such a controversial topic. I was putting that mask over it so it would be more accepted.

It was all unnecessary and it sounds fake to me when I read it. As a good friend of mine who knows me well said, it was "cringey" (She's allowed to say that. It's okay. I agree.)

Before I go further, however, can I just give a huge THANK YOU to all those dear, lovely, supportive followers who "amen"ed and "LOVE"d this post?! You guys rock. Thanks for your support and love!

To continue, though, I also must give an equally big THANK YOU to those couple of people who pointed out the flaws of my post, even if I don't agree with everything they said, they helped me really think about what I really meant, and prepared me for this re-take. Thanks for helping me grow!

Re-take? Yes. Here we go. Here's what I was trying to say, plain and simple, without harsh words and Christianized sentiments.

It all comes down to worth. Our worth as daughters of God.
All those anecdotes I wrote out, all those passionate pleas I repeated, all those times I said "judge" and "judging" and "we need" and stuff--it could all be ignored. 
Out of the whole post, this is the bit that matters the most:
"We need feminism because no girl or woman deserves to feel worthless or inferior for following God's plan for her. We need feminism so girls are taught that their worth comes from being a daughter of God, a King, and not from anything else the world tries to tell them. We need feminism so that girls are taught to love their sisters because they all have the same worth she has. We need feminism so that we are united as sisters, instead of divided by differences."
My last post was all about "stop judging", to an audience of sweet girls who don't judge people, I'm sure. I don't want that to be my message.

What I want to say is, everyone is of equal worth to God. Every girl and woman has worth.

What I want to say is, that worth isn't affected by anything. All those examples I gave: marital status, personality, career and family choices, and so on and so forth--none of that affects how much you are worth.
What I want to say is, you are never worth less because of your situation in life or your choices, and you are never worthless because of them.

I want that to be my message, plain and simple. We are all beloved daughters (and sons if the case may be) of God, and we are all of infinite worth to Him. That's what matters. Life choices differ, situations aren't the same. But the "different" girl at church isn't worth less than that "perfect Christian woman" sitting across the chapel.

Feminism? I support it. Because to me, feminism is saying "I, as a woman, have worth". To me, feminism is saying "I will not accept less just because I'm a woman." To me, feminism is saying, "I will not let others make me feel inferior simply because I am a woman." To me, it is about empowerment and strength and worth.
I understand those who have different views on feminism, and as I mentioned in the other post, I don't support a lot of the connotations (pro-choice, immodesty, etc.) that come with feminism, but one thing I will always support:

We, as girls, ladies, and women, are of equal and infinite worth in the sight of our Father in Heaven.

Now go out there and live like it. You are incredible.

Together, as women who know our worth, we can change the world in small ways with big impact.

Thursday, February 22, 2018

Lovely Blog Party: Molly and Roger

My appreciation post for Molly Gibson and Roger Hamley, part of Cordy's Lovely Blog Party! 

Molly and Roger Hamley, Wives and Daughters, are one of my all-time favorite couples. Here's why.

1. They started off as friends.
I adore this about them. They were such dear, sweet friends, and each of them mentioned that the other was like a brother/sister. Molly was dear to Roger's whole family, and she loved all of them. She was able to support them through both deaths, and they were able to support her as well, as those deaths affected her hugely too. Molly and Roger stayed close almost the whole time. They were friends to each other. They did what friends do. That's so important in a relationship, to be supportive best friend figures to each other.

2. It wasn't "love at first sight."
Look. I know a lot of people get frustrated with Roger for being a blind idiot for a long time. Me too. But.
This is kind of what I was talking about before, how they were good friends first. It just wouldn't work as a "love at first sight" relationship. (I mean, look at Mr. Cox. Just look at the poor fool.)
Molly's character is such that she has to build a foundation of trust and goodwill to really love someone. If Roger had liked her right off, say, like he did with Cynthia, I think that would have done nothing good for their relationship. More likely she'd have been taken aback by his bold attentions, and she'd avoid spending time at Hamley Hall because of the awkwardness, etc. 
But the way it happened, they became close through months of friendship and support and love, and from there Molly's sisterly love grew into true love for the man who meant so much to her.
As for Roger, well, it took seeing her in a fancy dress with her hair done all purdy to realize she wasn't just like a sister to him.
So like a man. But, the delay made it that much more meaningful, didn't it? Right? 
(I know, none of us would have minded if he woke up sooner. I agree.)
But still, once they did make it, they were such a perfect couple. They were so meant for each other. Which brings me to...

3. Their personalities and dispositions suit each other perfectly.
Molly needed someone who could understand her, and someone who could know what she needed. Take the lecture after he finds her crying, for example. Roger was kind and sympathetic, and then he also gave her a little lecture about what she could to to move forward, instead of crying. I've no doubt he continued to play the perfect supporting, caring, and guiding role for her.

Roger needed, well, Molly. A woman who could support and care for him. A woman who not only listened to his scientific talk but was interested in it and learned about it on her own to discuss with him. He needed a woman who could be a quiet influence on him for good. Someone who would understand him. And with all that, a woman who could love him truly and sincerely with her whole heart. (**coughcoughnotlikeCynthiacoughcough**)
(He also needed someone as perfectly sweet and darling and loving as Molly to forgive him for his nonsense.)

As a couple, they're clearly each other's partners, equals. They love and support each other perfectly.

4. They're intellectual equals.
I mentioned this before, but to go further...
Molly was interested in science, which was, I believe, somewhat unique for women of her age. Now part of it, perhaps, may have been that she was interested in Roger and therefore his interests, but truly, I believe she was genuinely fascinated by the things he told her, and really, who would read entire books on insects and things without some true interest? (There's a good long sentence for you.) Molly could understand what he was saying in those parts of his letters Cynthia dismissed as "nonsense". She could keep up with him, and considering the "man of science" he was, that's really quite impressive. 

And Roger, dear lad, I love watching in the movie how excited he gets about science, and how excited he is to see Molly's excitement about the same things. It's so cute.

Are they not just the most perfect, darling couple? If you haven't read or seen Wives and Daughters--well first of all WHY DID YOU READ THAT??? SPOILERS!!! There was a major spoiler in the title!!!--Oh but second of all go read it. Or watch it. 

What do y'all think of Molly and Roger? How forgiving are you towards Roger's foolishness? 

Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Couples for Couples Tag

Happy Valentine's Day!!! 

If you haven't heard already, Cordy is hosting a month-long "Lovely Blog Party"!

As part of that, she made a "Couples for Couples" Tag. Here are my answers:

Ivanhoe and Rebecca: Name a couple that should have been together
-Mary Poppins and Bert. I defy anyone to disagree.

Jo and Laurie: Name a couple that should have stayed friends...or did stay friends...
-Jack Thornton and Rosemary LeVeaux

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Jane and Mr. Rochester: Name a couple that looked like the chances of a happily ever after were next to none!
-Pat Gardiner and Hilary "Jingle" Gordon, from the Pat books by L. M. Montgomery. My goodness, the last chapter never fails to make me cry.

Jane and Mr. Bingley: Name a couple that is just sooo happy!
-Amy Dorrit and Arthur Clennam, at the end of course.

Kit and Ella: Name your favorite fairytale couple
-Elise and Amiri, from the book I'm writing. Haha. Does that count? :p
If not...I might have to go with Anna and Kristoff. They are an ADORABLE couple. 

Molly Gibson and Roger Hamley: Name a couple where the woman is basically ignored by the suitor until the end of the story (frustration at it's finest!! :P :P)
-Fanny Price and Edmund Bertram. The end.

Sarah and Jacob Witting: Name a couple that found love later in life

-Anne Elliot and Captain Wentworth. I suppose they found each other earlier in life but they didn't manage to make it work until much later.
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Don Lockwood and Kathy Seldon: Name a couple from a musical
-Adam and Milly from Seven Brides for Seven Brothers
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I mean, once Adam got over his major issues with how he thought of and treated women, they were a great couple. And of course Milly is amazing.

Anne and Gilbert: Name a couple that didn't start out on the right foot
-Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy. No tag is complete without a P&P answer.

Faramir and Eowyn: Name a couple with the sweetest love story
-Polly Milton and Tom Shaw. Aaaaahhh. They are the sweeetessst. (An Old-Fashioned Girl. Go read it if you haven't.)

Happy Valentine's Day!!! May you all enjoy discount chocolate tomorrow, which we know is more of a holiday than today for a lot of us. :D

Pride and Prejudice inspired necklace

Monday, February 12, 2018

Another Period Drama Tag

Molly Rebekah tagged me in Elanor's tag, Another Period Drama Tag! Thank you so much, Molly!!!

1.  What was the most recent period drama you watched?  Share what you thought of it.
-Oh goodness, I haven't seen a period drama in a little while. I must soon. But the last I remember, I watched two at the end of December: The When Calls the Heart Christmas special, and The Man Who Invented Christmas.
The Man Who Invented Christmas completely blew me away a little more than WCTH, but the latter was still a charming, darling episode.

2.  Do you generally prefer period dramas in the form of a movie or a TV series/mini-series?  Why?
-Generally, a TV series/mini-series. They're longer and generally therefore more accurate to the original book. Besides, the more the better! A 5-hour version is nearly always preferable to a 2-hour version. :D

3.  What is your favorite musical period drama?
-I love The Sound of Music of course (see: blog name, page titles). Also Seven Brides for Seven Brothers (which I would say counts, Cordy :), Mary Poppins, R&H Cinderella...I love musicals and a lot of them are set in period drama eras. :D

4.  Read the book first or watch the movie first?
-Generally, read the book. There are exceptions I've made, but most of the time I prefer to read the book first. 

5.  What is a valuable life lesson you learned from a period drama?
-Oh, there's so many. I think I'll go with "He would not be quite so handsome if he were not so rich" from Pride and Prejudice. I think it's important to realize how much economic status matters when choosing a husband and determining attractiveness.
That's right, Mr. Collins. You are not rich, therefore unattractive. You see? Does it make sense now?

6.  Which period drama hero would you be likely to fall in love with in real life?
-Roger Hamley. 
Yes, yes, he's an extremely frustrating little thang with all the silliness but ROGER HAMLEY. Seriously. He is, himself, the exact type of man I would fall in love with in real life. No, not because I'm likely to fall in love with someone who won't love me back for a while. I'm talking he, himself, the person, the personality, the interests. Etc. He's perfect.
Seriously, he's so sweet and perfect and--I'll do another post about him and Molly later and elaborate.

7.  Do you ever like to binge-watch a period drama series?

8.  What things go best with watching a period drama?
-A good friend who agrees with and adds to your commentary.

9.  Which period drama do you think you would fit into best?
-I think I'd do okay in Pride and Prejudice, actually. I could be your Elizabeth Bennet or Fanny Price or Elinor Dashwood...wait a second...

10. If you could have any period drama character for a best friend, who would it be?  And why?
-My real life best friend is a Jane Bennet, with some Elizabeth Bennet and Molly Gibson in her. So there's my answer. :)

11. Show us a picture of a period drama costume you wish you could wear in real life.
-I love Victorian styles, also the dresses in Cranford. I can't really think of period dramas with the costume styles I love most that I've seen, so here's some of the darling ladies of Cranford.
12. Are there any period dramas you like to watch during a particular season or holiday?
-Not really, no. Just all of them, all the time. :D

13. Which period drama has your favorite soundtrack?
-North and South has glorious music, also "Collins Canon" from the P&P soundtrack. His theme song has bassoon in it, which I think is perfect.

14. Dream cast your favorite actor and actress in a period drama of your choosing; tell which parts they would play and why.
-I've been wracking my brain for days trying and failing to come up with a good answer. My favorite actress and actor are Emma Watson and Tom Hiddleston--what do you think? Who would you cast them as?

15. Are there any period dramas you like more than one version of?
-Sense and Sensibility 1995 and 2008.

16. What are the top three period dramas that you haven't seen on your to-watch list?
The Greatest Showman,
Fiddler on the Roof,

17. Show a picture of your favorite period drama hairstyle.
I love Emma's hairstyle in my header.

18. What was your favorite wedding in a period drama?
One of my favorites. :)

19. What is your favorite biographical period drama?
-Not sure if it quite counts, but The Man Who Invented Christmas.

20. Which historical novel will you forever recommend to anyone and everyone?
-Oh there are so many good ones! I guess Pride and Prejudice I would recommend to anyone and everyone.

This was such a fun tag!!!

Friday, January 19, 2018

Winter Ball (+ random things)

Two weeks ago, I attended a Winter Ball, and it was the most glorious dance I've ever been to. 

I began making my ballgown the day after I found out about it, and here is the result:

The bodice is designed to echo 18th century French styles

While the skirt is meant to be more modern to keep it from being a completely period piece.

I designed it myself, with the aid of a pattern for sizing and things like that for the bodice, and for the skirt I copied (to a point) a gown I saw on Pinterest. 

The ball itself was wonderful. Ladies, they had dance cards. Isn't that splendid?

I also met some charming gentleman, one of whom friended me on Facebook afterwards, hehe. :D

 This one is one of my favorite pictures:

(My younger brother took pictures for me the next day, when we got some snow! I was thrilled with the results. He did an amazing job.)

It was a marvellous night! 

Now, it's been a while since I've been active in the blogging world, yikes. The last time I posted was over a month ago, and I haven't commented on y'all's posts for a while! My apologies if I don't get to all of them!

Another thing that's been keeping me busy (besides and after I made the dress, which took about twenty hours) is starting a homeschool choir! Where we moved to has a huge homeschooling community, and we have 41 kids aged 8-18 in our choir! It's exciting, and it's been a lot of work, as I made an agreement with my mother: I'll do all the organizing, communicating, etc., if she directs the choir. So it's kept me busy! 

Other updates on my life, which is really rather boring:

-This new place is turning out to be rather nice, really. It's growing on me. One thing I love, that I briefly mentioned before, is the homeschooling community. I've made so many friends who are homeschooled; way more in the past few months than all the years where I lived before! 

-With that, yes, I'm making friends here--miracle of miracles! It's such a blessing and answer to prayers.

-I sing tenor in our homeschool choir, which I love. I can sing soprano, alto, or tenor, and as the tenor section was smallest of those (unsurprisingly), I chose tenor. The other tenors are lads aged 10-14 and it's fun to sing with them! 
(The bass section is, also unsurprisingly, the only section smaller than tenor and I, sadly, cannot sing bass. :D)

-I started re-reading Pride and Prejudice yesterday, and I declare it gets funnier every time I read it! It is a masterpiece of literary comedy. 
("The astonishment of the ladies [upon finding out Mr. Bennet had visited Mr. Bingley] was just what he wished; that of Mrs. Bennet perhaps surpassing the rest; though when the first tumult of joy was over, she began to declare that it was what she had expected all the while.
'... But I knew I should persuade you at last...'"
"You mistake me, my dear. I have I high respect for your nerves. They are my old friends. I have heard you mention them with consideration these twenty years at least.")

-I am truly enjoying my year off from school. I decided not to start school this winter semester either and I have no regrets. I feel like I've been so busy with schoolwork for the past so many years that I haven't had time to be busy with anything else. Now I get to keep busy with all kinds of different things! I plan to go to college this fall, but for now, I'm loving it. 

-This was a looong while ago, but my sister and I went to see "The Man Who Invented Christmas" the day after Christmas, and it was brilliant.
Seriously. It was beautiful and amazing and really, the word that kept coming to mind was brilliant. It had an amazing storyline and the production was gorgeous and it had all the emotions; funny, sad, excited, frustrated, happy, joyous, awed. 
Did anyone else see it? If not, if you get an opportunity, watch it.
(It's very family friendly, too. We came home and I immediately recommended it to the rest of my family and they went the next day. There are a couple "minor" swear-words but they're honestly pretty easy to miss, too. It's rated PG.)

I hope you all are having a lovely new year! To those of you starting back up with school, good luck! How are you all doing?

Love to you all!